Here are some more specific points that were helpful:

Sections:  By breaking the e-mail down into sections and replying to each point, that was really great and made each reply super clear and it felt like a personal conversation.

Thank you for this, I don't feel like I could thank you enough :)

Renee

Renee Primeau--
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​Here is her blog entry that she wrote about Roxanne,

My awesome friend, Roxanne Smith, is a personal coach specializing in Highly Sensitive People.
She is a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), herself.What Roxanne aims to do is to help this 1/5 of the population understand themselves and their trait so that they can live the fulfilling lives they were born to live.

Since most HSPs are either unaware of their trait, misunderstand it perhaps by feeling there is something “wrong” with them, or may know about it but feel ashamed or “weird”, she helps to bring this trait to light, assists the HSP in finding comfort and appreciation for this great asset (which is what it really is), and helps them deal with the over-stimulation that can occur when proper self-care isn’t taken.

Roxanne is such an interesting and genuine person and she offers very amazing and helpful insights. The life transformations she has helped along are unreal and I am very excited to share more about her and the topic of Highly Sensitive People in future entries!


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Thanks sincerely, Evenus

           
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Hi Roxanne,

I can't begin to tell you how extremely helpful your words of
encouragement meant to me. I feel you are an understanding
compassionate and sensitive human being; similar to my
dearest childhood friend. I'm very fortunate to have someone
I can express my true feeling and frustrations to.

I will take your advice and begin a journal writing my private
thoughts and express how I'm feeling each and every day.
I enjoy walking and working out; I also go to a little chapel
after my exercise class to pray and meditate three times a week.
You have provided me with a sense of hope and comfort,
Thank you so much. May God Bless You, Love CS


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Dear Roxanne,

I am so glad to read your long mail, and amazed at how you could read so much between the lines from my short letter. I didn't mean to make my earlier letter short, I wrote it in a moment of exasperation. But you have correctly identified my father as 'another' narcissistic personality, and you have thorougly understood my situation though I didn't describe it in detail.

Thank you Roxanne so much for your big mail filled with warmth, and though we are far away, I feel glad in knowing that one person understands me. And just like you said, I need one person in India whom I can go for support, but right now I have none. But I have hope, and so I shall live.
love

Vava

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Hello Roxanne!
Wow. What a relief to find your site. Thank you so much for your loving, compassionate words. Your posts have moved me to tears. I am 28 years old, and, through the work of an intuitive counselor, have been able to put a name to the source of my deep rooted misery. My abuser was absolutely a narcissist.... Thank you so much for your response. It helped me immensely. Thank you so so much for your caring and insighful email.

Hugs!!

Jane 

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Roxanne,

I appreciate this so much. Very validating. I actually deleted a section in my email about their passive aggressive behavior (this is very disturbing to me), and for you to point that out shows how very intuitive/knowledgeable you are. I will have to reread this again and again to fully absorb it as I am doing with your informative blog posts. Saying thank you does not describe how grateful I am for your knowledge, understanding, and kindness. Words cannot describe how I feel.

Star
 

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Other Testimonials:

Christa 
2010/09/17 at 2:35 pm
More Helpful Tips For Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) Part 1
 
Roxanne, I can't even put into words right now what this post means to me. It was an answer, loud and clear, to my unending question of why?.
You triggered "that moment" for me. Now I see.
Thank you for parting the clouds. I am going to take the time to study your words, open my heart and finally listen to my truth and find myself again.
This is a God send.
Blessings, Christa




Alisha 
69.126.77.27
2010/10/21 at 4:20 pm
Part 2–More Helpful Tips for HSPs 

Roxanne, thank you so much for this post. I have just come to the realization that my father is a huge overwhelming malignant narcissist. It’s been a horrible cycle which I’m ending now. I just wanted to let you know that your words helped.
Namaste



Dawn
morsemusings.wordpress.com/ 
173.29.218.193
2010/02/28 at 1:25 pm
Moving on--A Former Obedient Child’s Fight For Freedom
 
I’m deeply touched and grateful that I have found your blog. I marvel at your insight and journey. I found you via Cyndi’s blog and I could not be more tickled right now that I did.

The eternal night are the words I chose to describe the childhood I arose from. I feel a deep connection reading through all that you have said in just this one post. I’m highly sensitive, I’m learning the term “empath” for the first time.

And the mention of the book, The Drama of the Gifted Child, just makes me want to race off to the bookstore this morning.

Thank you for being here in the world.

Dawn



gina 
173.66.20.234
2010/02/28 at 12:01 am
 
I’m so glad i found your blog. thank you. You’ve given me hope that I can someday turn off that negative voice and feel good about myself.



Terri 
173.69.206.124
2010/05/27 at 5:11 pm
May 27, 2010 Summer’s Great Expectations 

Wow, you’ve just described my own childhood summers and put a lot into perspective for me. 



I matter 
70.112.12.68 2010/06/27 at 3:59 pm
 
Thank you for this sentence: “It is wrong to take care of them at the expense of myself.”…
I matter.
And, I have every right to my feelings and to stand up for myself.
Thank you God for walking with me and believing in me.



Katmom 
24.46.182.159
2010/07/16 at 2:46 pm
Moving on--A Former Obedient Child’s Fight For Freedom
 
….Thanks for posting your story. It helps so much to know others are out there dealing with this same hidden horror…
 

alex 
94.197.168.87
2010/07/12 at 10:17 pm
Voicing And Releasing Righteous Anger–A Guide For Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) 
 
Hi,

Wow what a moving and mirror piece of writing. It was like reading my inner thoughts. …

love a x



Jaime
itoldyouiwassick.com 
24.177.224.46 2010/06/15 at 10:22 pm
The Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) and Allergies, Food Intolerances, and Stress-related Illness
 
Wow. This was like reading my life story in so many ways. I too was sick until I found out I had a gluten intolerance. I experienced an abusive childhood because people didn’t understand that the way I was behaving was part gluten-related and part HSP-related (I’m an empath).
I’m also a singer/song-writer but haven’t done it in a while. http://www.etherealvox.com (I think you’ll like ‘Baby Blue’).

This is a great blog. I hope you’ll keep in touch.

Love & light,

Jaime

http://www.itoldyouiwassick.com



dmtorbi
acoarecovery.wordpress.com 
96.224.10.156
2010/08/20 at 4:05 pm
From the Heart of an Obedient Child: The Painful Legacy Left Behind
 
WOW. Amazing writing! All the pain & all the healing are there. Love the last line, too. I just posted one I wrote before I had any hope of healing, & it reminds me of the first part of yours. Always glad to hear others’ recovery & self-esteem!
http://acoarecovery.wordpress.com/alone



OAD
oneangrydaughter.com 
68.32.220.16
2010/07/22 at 1:36 pm
Perfectionism, The Highly Sensitive Person, and How Grieving Our Childhood Pain Is Essential To Healing
 
… I love your blog. I always feel uplifted after reading your insight. {{{HUGS}}}

http://www.oneangrydaughter.com
 


Jim Hallowes
HighlySensitivePeople.com 
76.168.92.183
2010/07/23 at 5:28 am
 
Hi Roxanne,

I very much enjoyed and very much appreciate your website and all the good work you do! I want to introduce myself, I’m Jim Hallowes and I invite you to my website http://www.HighlySensitivePeople.com and also suggest and give you my permission to add my website as a link on yours and in return I’ll be more than happy to create a link to yours, if you’d like that. I look forward to hearing from you.

All the best, Jim

Jim Hallowes
Founder, Highly Sensitive People®



Cyndi  
71.201.245.237
2010/02/01 at 6:12 pm
 
Roxanne, I can’t thank you enough for your kind words. I am floored that you had such a reaction to my post. I appreciate it more than you will ever know along with all the other people who identified with it. It helps ME to know I am not alone.

You are absolutely right about it being the shame that does not truly belong to me. That is what I felt when I wrote it. I’ve even written an entire post about “shoulds” (title: My #1 Most Hated Word In The English Language)…. 



trish 
122.149.85.243
2010/07/22 at 1:41 am
Childhood Pain Comes Up to Heal When Things Are Going Well
 
i feel like u were talking about me i am going through counselling and am coming against strong feelings as truths come to light .thankyou for helping me to be strong and not feel like its just me sending love trish



upsi
upsi-upsi.blogspot.com/ 
71.201.198.94
2010/07/18 at 6:05 pm
The Misjudgment of Introverts and the True Meaning of Introversion
 
Roxanne – This is a really important topic, I found that introverted traits were heavily devalued in my family – hence the development of my false self to be loved. The truth is, I recharge my batteries in solitude – and for a long time, I think I tried to deny to myself that I was introverted. I can play the extrovert – probably some of my own narcissistic traits that I developed in my family to survive – but I am working now to accept my true nature and live according to it. Thank you for sharing what you’ve learned about this topic, as always, your writing speaks right to my heart.

hugs,
upsi
 


Michele Rosenthal
healmyptsd.com 
66.229.40.16
2010/10/18 at 3:00 am
Journaling for Joy and Finding My True Voice In A Poem
 
Roxanne — Thank you for being so open on your blog, both in your poetry and your posts. I, too, found great healing through writing. Poetry was how I first found the language to express what my HSP nature found difficult to contain. And then a lot of my recovery came through writing a memoir about my trauma which, as an HSP, I had a lot of trouble processing and making peace with! Words, and the shared communal experience of art, have healing powers beyond what normal medicine can often provide. 



loveworthdyingfor 
24.248.39.186
2010/10/20 at 9:20 am
Overcoming the Guilt 
 
This is a really good blog for ACON recovery! I wish I’d read this last year.

….It’s thanks to blogs and sites like yours that I was able to see what was happening to me and learned methods on how to deal with the problem that I thought was only mine. I think society actually reveres even abusive mothers too much, so much that they’d sacrifice their emotional well being for them because their children weren’t taught how to love themselves first. Lots of Love and Peace to you and all ACON families. 



Cyndi
somuchmorethanamom.com 
71.201.245.237
2010/03/22 at 3:04 pm
Trust in Your Desires as a Guide to your True Purpose in Life
 
Congratulations on this endorsement! You are doing important work here.



evenus 
71.204.242.213
2010/05/02 at 8:45 pm
How My Best Counselor Helped Me to Break Through My Illusions and Self-doubt 
 
Roxanne, This is brilliant! I love your honesty!

My experience and my feelings (invisible, non acceptance, illusions and guilt) matter! Wow, it’s good to know that we don’t have to feel guilty for being brave enough to stand up to the lies and abuse! And to allow ourselves the gifts of self acceptance and love…And to trust where to draw the line.

We are worthy to seek and attract people, places and experiences that serve to promote individual uniqueness, respect, understanding, and the basic need to express and share love…..by the balance of giving and receiving, from the heart’s deepest desires.

A narcissist does not honor the true meaning of “Relationship”…to relate in the giving and receiving of love, relate in our shared humanity, and relate in our individual and shared experiences. And in honoring personal boundaries.

A narcissist does not allow their children to have healthy boundaries…They violate all boundaries and shame you for having them, then beat you up emotionally for not having them. It is a double edged sword!

Anyone, with any dignity would walk away from the crimes of emotional and mental abuse, right?. Family on the other hand is deeply rooted and complicated….(the illusions)…..but it is necessary for the abused HSP, to put an end to the insanity, by breaking away, for self preservation and the ability to expand, evolve and flourish… as we have the right to do, and were created to do. It is a risk worth taking.

I agree with you, that we have to be cheerleaders for ourselves and seek environments that promote individual uniqueness, and the openess we desire. I now realize that Healthy, loving personal boundaries are so important in this healing process. I realize that I don’t have to try and fix, rescue or constantly appeal to others needs…..I can say NO! I can be selfish enough to take care of me! AND NOT FEEL GUILTY !!!!!! YEE HA!
 


Cyndi  
71.201.245.237
2010/05/01 at 2:56 am
Survival Guide--How to Cope...
 
Roxanne, when I saw the title of this post I went and got myself a cup of coffee, got settled in and prepared to read words with which I could completely identify.

You did not disappoint. …. I will be reading this book, thanks for recommending it. …

Great post. 



upsi
upsi-upsi.blogspot.com 
38.106.227.213
2010/05/03 at 2:02 pm
Survival Guide–How To Cope... 

​Roxanne,
Thank you so much for giving me words to contemplate this week, the excerpts you include here really give me strength for this week. This is the first Mother’s Day that I’m “on-the-outs” with NM, and I have the pit of dread and guilt that I don’t want to honor her. Thank you for sharing your insights.

xo
upsi
 


evenus 
71.204.242.213
2010/04/30 at 6:38 pm
Moving on--A Former Obedient Child’s Fight For Freedom 
 
Roxanne, I want to thank you for responding to my recent email…about my N father and the insanity he continues to dump on our family….I am grateful to connect with someone like you, who knows the experience and can relate to mine.

I have dealt with trying to please by bending in his direction, but also standing up for truth…battling the denial with my siblings, who are playing the roles of either survivalist, or repressed indentured servants, or submissive denial. My only hope is that we will be loving and supportive in the end regardless of what my father does or does not do. understaning the reality and dealing with it in a healthy way is my desire.

I have battled with unworthiness and self doubt all my life. And going from hope, confidence and focus on what matters to feeling like I’m being thrown into a pit with no way out…..This creates a strong determination and a desire to abort life “as is” and seek a whole new existance……but feeling alone too. Being true to my authenic and loving self with strong,healthy boundaries is the only answer and solution to breaking the chains that bind my yearning heart..

thanks for your understanding and loving words



kathleenhogg.com 
kathleenhogg
2010/07/08 at 5:09 pm
Overcoming the Guilt From Standing Up..
 
This is a very interesting BLOG. It showed up on mine as a link. chronicpainjournal.wordpress.com. …
Thank you for your BLOG and now that I am a Chronic Pain Patient, I have written some things about marriage and such. It is crucial to survive them……and remember it is their loss really.



empathicperspectives 
97.81.53.243
2010/08/03 at 8:47 pm
 
I have posted a link to your website in my Empathic Website List on http://empathicperspectives.blogspot.com

You have a lovely website. ^_^

Namaste
Misu 



upsi
upsi-upsi.blogspot.com/ 
7196.24.22.104
2010/04/03 at 1:56 am
 
“I had never heard of the term Highly Sensitive Person until I read Roxanne’s blog, and it’s fascinating not only how much it resonates with my experience, but how many other ACONs feel the exact same way! When we read about each others’ sensitivity, we find tremendous commonality – I see it in the comments on their posts, others saying “this describes me so perfectly, I feel like I could have written this” It’s a helluva lot better to share experiences than be told we’re too sensitive!

It blows me away. I’ve lived ashamed and confused about the sensations I experience, how deeply things effect me and how I react to daily life. It is wonderful to find words to describe my level of sensitivity that don’t automatically make sensitive into a bad thing, a weakness.

So thank you to the brave DONMs for sharing this valuable line of thinking.

We’re here, we’re sensitive, get used to it!”